AM I WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER ?

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

The Author replied :

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO..

Personality Match Does Not Mean a Happy Marriage

According to a study presented on August 4, 2011 at the American Psychological Association’s annual meeting in Washington, D.C, men and women in relationships need not be similar in personality in order to have a successful long-lasting marriage. The study, which included couples who had been married for at least 40 years, found that neither similarities in personality nor differences appeared to affect how happy the couples were.

“One of my very speculative suspicions is that this need for a relationship is so strong that it overcomes differences,” study researcher Frederick Coolidge told LiveScience. Coolidge and colleagues had 32 couples take this survey to assess their personality and how satisfied they were in their marriages. Men and women were asked to evaluate their own personality, as well as their perceptions of their partners’ personalities. The couples completed the survey in separate rooms and were not allowed to see their partners’ responses. “We didn’t want to create any divorces,” said Coolidge.

The study found that both, men and women were pretty happy in their marriages, but on average, the women reported being slightly happier than the men. Neither the length of the marriage nor personality traits (self-identified and those perceived by the spouse) were associated with the couples’ level of marital satisfaction. This may be because, over the long haul, “different personalities may provide couples with complementary resources for dealing with life’s challenges,” Levenson told LiveScience.

4 Ways To Have a Green Wedding

The happiest day of your life could also cost the earth – literally. So, it makes more sense to opt for a green wedding, doesn’t it? If you wish to go for a eco-friendly wedding, we tell you how to go about it. Here you go…

1. Wedding Invitations
Your wedding invitations could be made from 100% recycled paper available in beautiful and rich textures. In fact, you’ll find a wide variety to choose from in India. Get these cards printed using vegetable inks such as a soy-based ink or water-based ink if you really care for the environment. You can also simply opt for paperless invitations in today’s E-age.

2. Décor
The venue is the most important aspect of a green wedding. Transform your wedding venue into a lush paradise using lots of fresh flowers, pebbles and organic materials for your drapes, table cloth, napkins and tents.

3. Catering
Food needs a lot of thought if you wish to go for a green wedding. Instead of having a wide variety of non-veg dishes on menu, you could have an additional section that has soy-based foods, lots of salads, more of vegetarian options, etc.

4. Honeymoon
And finally, for your honeymoon you could head to a wildlife destination, a beach or may be an eco-sanctuary. You’ll come across a lot of options to book your honeymoon on the internet. So, research and settle for a nice, green place.

Tips to Follow if You Keep Getting Dumped

If you’ve always been rejected after your first date, you need not feel bad about it or stop meeting people. Instead, work on yourself and have a positive attitude. Here are some pointers that will help you impress your partner the next time you go on a date…

1. Be Positive
Don’t go on a date thinking that it’s surely not going to click. Instead, have a positive attitude and be prepared because you never know, what’s going to happen when the two of you sit to talk. If it doesn’t work out, may be there’s someone much better in store for you. Just forget and move on.

2. Stay Fit, Eat Healthy
Exercise is the best way to beat stress. Staying in good shape will make you feel better about yourself and keep your mind off unpleasant incidents. Remember, the more fit you are, the more confident you’ll feel about yourself. It is also important to eat healthy to have a positive attitude towards life.

3. Be Happy 
Everyone wants a partner who’s fun, loving and entertaining. So, if you have a good sense of humor, nothing like it. This is one quality every guy/girl looks for in their partner, simply because they think when things go wrong you can find at least one thing to laugh at and bring a smile on your their face. So use your sense of humor to your benefit.

4. Choose the Right Topics
If you get too personal on your first date, nobody is ever going to like you! It’s best to talk only about family, friends, likes, dislikes and your career on your first date. Keep it simple and don’t ever do the mistake of asking your partner how many boys or girls he has dated.

5. Dress Well
Believe it or not, but this really matters. You need to know what to wear for a date and not go dressed in a party outfit. Wear something casual and women, please avoid showing too much skin or putting on too much make-up. You need to know how you can better present yourself to increase your chances of impressing your prospective partner. So, dress-well and think of how you will behave there to make your first date a success.

5 Things Men Hate About Women

Deep down they may love us, but there are times when they find women really annoying. Ask any man and they’re sure to mention these 5 habits that they hate about women. So, run through these points women and make sure you avoid these 5 big mistakes…

Jealousy
This is natural and mostly happens when women see their partner checking out other attractive women around them. If you too feel jealous about that, you’re absolutely normal. But, there’s a better way of letting your man know that you do not like him checking out other women. And, if he has more of girl friends in his circle, you need to be more understanding and you got to trust him. So, the jealousy we’re talking about is the type that seems to intrude on the inner space you two share. If you constantly bring up feelings of jealousy, it can often lead to a fight between the two of you and can ruin your relationship. In stead, deal with it in another way, because remember, he hates it when you distrust him.

Nagging
Women love passing on difficult tasks to their partner and if he’s still seen sitting on the couch watching TV, he’s gone. Women expect men to move it the minute they’re asked to do something. It doesn’t work that way ladies! You’ve done your job of asking your partner to do something, so leave it to him. He knows he’s supposed to do it and he will do it when he’s free. The way women shout shows that he’s undeserving. There’s nothing worse to a man than a woman who won’t get off his case. Don’t be that woman.

Be Yourself
A lot of women show that they’re very understanding, loving and caring and that is only when they’re new in a relationship but as time passes, men get to see the other side of them. We mean, in the beginning, you try to be someone else and later you be yourself. Men don’t like it when women put on a show or pretend to be something they’re not. So, be who you are.

Jumping to conclusions
Women love jumping to conclusions to prove themselves right, isn’t it? But it tends to bug men when we falsely assume something that ends up leading to an argument. Play it safe women and have an open mind. This will save both of you from a headache.

Spying Him 
Men are more comfortable in a relationship when they get some space, as they want to be free. Most women love keeping an eye on every move that they make but this is like making him feel that he’s in a cage. If you’ve ever tried to keep tabs on where your guy is, he hated it whether or not he told you, trust us! So, instead trust him and he’ll never let you down. Of course, if your partner has betrayed you in the past, you have all the right to keep an eye on him. But, there’s no harm in giving him a second chance.

5 Qualities to Look For in Your Life Partner

Marriage is a life-long commitment, so it is important that you find someone who’s just perfect for you. There is a common belief that marriages are made in heaven, but when it comes to selecting a life-partner it can’t be left to destiny or luck, right? You need to make an effort to know the person better and have shared interests. Here are some qualities you should look for in your prospective partner…

1. Maturity 
This is one important quality you need to look for in your partner. S/he should be mentally prepared to take on responsibilities of a family and should be capable of taking independent decisions at the time of crisis. Physical, emotional and intellectual maturity can be termed as ingredients that will lead to the stability of a relationship in the future. So, find out how matured and mentally prepared s/he really is before getting hitched.

2. Good Family Background 
This is of utmost importance and can’t be ignored, as marriage is not just the coming together of two individuals but two families. Religion, culture, traditions and values play an important role when it comes to marriage and living under the same roof. A rift can occur and scar the relationship forever if even one of the two families is too orthodox or too broad-minded. Lifestyle, food habits, religious sentiments, etc are few important factors to be considered.

3. Financial Stability 
Your partner should have a stable income. What if one of you lose your job, due to some reason after marriage? So, it’s important that both of you are equally stable. You don’t have to feel uncomfortable discussing money matters ahead of time. For instance, you could talk about your spending habits and find out where you both feel your money should go, etc. This can prevent disagreements later. Also, discuss how you and your partner feel about buying, saving, and sharing bank accounts (if needed).

4. Sense of Humour 
Having a partner with good sense of humour will ease out your worries in difficult times. This gives one the courage to take things light-heartedly and adds zeal to a marriage. Believe it or not, but when the going gets tough, good sense of humour can take you smoothly even through rough situations. Life is so much fun when your partner has a good sense of humour and knows how to be there for you to put a smile on your face.

5. Emotional Compatibility and much more…
Be it, good personal hygiene, adjusting nature, physical and emotional compatibility, etc these are all important factors that determine the success of a marriage. Mutual trust and respect helps you share things openly, as a couple. Also, ease of communication leads to a long-lasting relationship, which in turn helps you to resolve the issues in a mature manner.

Now you know, what to look for in an ‘ideal’ partner and a happy married-life ahead.

Study: Creative People More Likely to Cheat

According to a recent research, chances of cheating is more in creative people than in the non-creative lot. This is possibly because of the talent possessed by the original thinkers, which increases their ability to rationalize their actions.”Greater creativity helps individuals solve difficult tasks across many domains, but creative sparks may lead individuals to take unethical routes when searching for solutions to problems and tasks,” said lead researcher Francesca Gino, PhD, of Harvard University.

Gino and her co-author, Dan Ariely, PhD, of Duke University, conducted a series of five experiments to test their thesis that more creative people would cheat under circumstances where they could justify their bad behaviour. The researchers used a series of recognized psychological tests and measures to gauge research subjects’ creativity.

They also tested participants’ intelligence. In each of the five experiments, participants received a small sum for showing up. Then, they were presented with tasks or tests where they could be paid more if they cheated. The experimenters also told participants they would be paid more for more correct answers and led them to believe that they could cheat without detection when transferring their answers. However, all the papers had unique identifiers.

The results showed the more creative participants were significantly more likely to cheat, and that there was no link between intelligence and dishonesty. For instance, more intelligent but less creative people were not more inclined toward dishonesty. The study has been published online in APA’s Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.